We are each personally responsible for everything in our lives, no matter how out of control things may appear to be in the moment.
When we take responsibility, we empower ourselves. When we take responsibility, we become open to learning valuable lessons. When we take responsibility, we are on the path to making internal and external changes to improve our situation and move into greater Energetic Integrity. When we take responsibility, we disarm those who would vigorously defend their position and blame us.
On the other hand, when we blame others, we give away our power.
At the highest spiritual level, we accept responsibility for everything, knowing that everything that we see, feel, and experience is manifest from our subconscious mind, and that at some level, we are the Creator, causing this all to happen. We have infinite power.
There is no greater example of this than the Hawaiian ho’oponopono meditation (paraphrased), as follows:
Identify the entity (person or situation) that is causing you stress. Assume 100% responsibility for this creation in your life. Then say:
“If I, my family, relatives, or ancestors have offended you or yours in thoughts, words, or deeds from the beginning of creation until now, we ask for forgiveness and we love you. In this spirit, we also forgive you and yours totally and completely. We are one. When we forgive you, we forgive ourselves. When we love you, we love ourselves.
Let this cleanse, cut, release, and purify all negative emotions tied to negative energies and transmute them all into pure light. And it is done!”
You can do this all the time by simply saying “I’m sorry, I love you, please forgive me”, over and over, until all of the negative energy has been released.
By taking this level of responsibility, any remaining feelings of being a victim and being powerless are eliminated. In forgiving others, loving them, forgiving yourself and loving yourself in all ways, the anger, embarrassment, guilt, etc., is removed.
Implementation: Take responsibility right now for something you had previously blamed on someone else. Be humble. Be strong. Use the O’honopono language and step into a higher vibration.