No matter how illogical, ill-conceived, or ineffective their attitudes and behaviors are, everyone is just trying to protect themselves. They are just trying rescue themselves from their own fear and darkness as best they can.
They are trying to come into greater Energetic Integrity, feel stronger, and tap into Universal Power. They are trying to find their way back to Love and Peace and Happiness.
And they are most likely acting in a way that is consistent with their childhood survival strategies – doing those things that protected them, or seemed to protect them, when they were much younger.
They will often ignore evidence that indicates their survival strategy is no longer effective, or is no longer working at all. And they could have tremendous confirmation bias, seeing only the reasons to continue with their attitudes and behaviors, and ignoring the reasons for change.
To alter someone’s behavior or belief, you must make them feel safer in changing than they do in continuing to do what they are doing and think what they are thinking. Otherwise, it can take a massive amount of courage on their part to face their fears and make a change.